My Recent Experiences with Sorrows

Being cornered in solitude is in itself a kind of boon as I’ve realised from my experiences. “Sweet are the uses of adversity” is such a true saying. All of your learning is directly dependent on how much you suffer. Happiness is a bad, bad teacher; it teaches you nothing but rather it forms a miasma around your head that you “know” things. It is all in your bad and dark days that you learn things; learn about people and most importantly about yourself.

Ever been in one of those situations where you feel all alone and gloomy, cornered in a room whose walls always close in on you? That, my friend, bad is it may seem is one of the best things that could ever happen to you. Yes, you heard me right. I consider sorrows to be a blessing all thanks to my optimism that there is a tad bit of good in every bad. I find sorrows enlightening and I do not condemn them. We all are foolish in our own regards and might as well learn something when the greatest teacher ever- LIFE is trying to teach us something. In turn, what do we do; we whine and cry about all that is going wrong with us. Our brain is such a wicked creature I tell you; it is a pessimistic little brat that only tells you all that could go wrong about a certain situation that you encounter. You have an exam you face your worst fear of failing, you have to go to a party you think of whether or not you’re going to be late, you met someone new and what did you do? Judged that guy or girl from head to toe. You love someone you fear rejection instead of expressing yourself. Your heart, on the other hand, is an emotional wreck. It listens to your brain and starts doing what the brain should do- THINK. So, in this constant tug of war between the interchange of actions between your brain and heart you get torn apart trying to hold everything together and become a mess; a mess of emotions and pessimism. And if this happens, you are neck deep in trouble. Nobody but you can save yourself from this trouble.

And once you get in the aforesaid trouble you do another big mistake- seek help from others. You search for something which is already inside you, in others. You try and take help of the very same people who really don’t give two fucks about your happiness and sorrows; who themselves are a bigger mess than you; who have already no idea of what is going on inside your head and who really don’t like you for who you are because your grand personality does not fit in their pre-assumed measurements and templates. That is a pretty big error on your part to think that people care for you- nobody really cares if you aren’t pretty or rich. Prettiness and riches multiply your problems multifold in the eyes of others. And how can I tell all this? I’ve had quite some experience with such people myself. Your heartbreaks, your tears and your problems are best kept secrets to yourselves only; because the outside world is too ignorant to help you. They chicken their way out by giving petty excuses when you really need them but they’ll always tell you that you mean a lot to them or that you are a great friend of theirs. Their words speak louder and their actions get dumb. Sounds familiar doesn’t it? We’ve all been there, haven’t we?

What you really should do is introspect. Seek answers to all your questions. Not that you will not have any true friends; talk to only them; the ones who really know you and love you for your own true self. Stop giving a fuck about everything, because not every problem is yours to solve, not every broken person is yours to fix and not every person is yours to love. Not giving a fuck may actually be the key to solving more than half of the problems in the world. And don’t really pay heed to what everyone has to say; they don’t wear your shoes and don’t walk the road you walk upon and as Eminem has rightly said-

“Whatever you’re afraid to say don’t be afraid to say no more

From this day on forward just let them a-holes talk

Take it with a grain of salt and eat their fucking faces off”

At the end of the day all that you take home is yourself so why waste your energies on such ephemeral things when you really could build and grow your own self; and that is what very few people actually are able to do. So, stay insouciant and let people go and fuck themselves and be true to you.

Till next time. Peace Out!!